Sunday Letter

Husband! It’s 11am and I still haven’t posted the letter for today. I think the fact that we’re getting closer to the end of our blogdom creeps us further and further back on our post times. Remember when we used to write the night before and autopost at 1:30 am? That was really cute.

Somehow I think that when you see something coming to completion, you tend to sit back and enjoy seeing everything you’ve done up to that point. All the work we did to gain one another’s affections in courtship provided great pleasure at the beginning of marriage, making it seem an almost effortless existence in the new world we were taking on. I really think, though, that a year is probably the limit on riding that out, perhaps bringing us to the end of what they call the honeymoon stage. I’m not sure at what point we no longer fall under the “newlywed” category, but I think it might have something to do with realizing that marriage isn’t actually quite as easy as it seemed during the first few months.

I’m trying to weigh this realization with the fact that so many people say the first year is the most difficult. On the one hand, we can’t ride the courtship wave much longer, but if this was the most difficult year, I can’t really imagine how great the rest of the years will be. Something in me wonders if “the first year is the hardest” was a line spoken once as a conversation starter that accidentally caught on with all of society. That’s where conversation starters will get you. Remember this.

I’ve been thinking about all the things we were doing at this time last year; running around making last minute purchases, packing for the honeymoon, trying to keep our families quiet until the last minute. There was so much expectation and excitement in my heart, and though it’s much different now, the expectation still resides there, looking forward to year two and all the rest that will follow. I know things are starting to look the same every day, but I’m praying for fresh eyes daily, that we would never take these times together for granted.

Clear eyes and full hearts and such.

Catch ya in the pool. Please wear sunscreen today. Our marriage will last a lot longer.

-Your bride

3 thoughts on “Sunday Letter”

  1. I’m really sad that I am just now falling in love with your blog…. I missed such a great year of posts! I have been reading through some of your pasts posts and I can just see the Lord through your love. I feel like it is harder and harder to find relationships based on Jesus Christ and seeing yours has just refreshed me. I pray for my future marriage often and I pray that others will be able to see the Lord through my marriage. Thank you for sharing your lives with us!

  2. I’m quite new to your blog but I’ve really enjoyed reading your story! After I read this blog post, I just wanted to share a couple of my thoughts with you, if you don’t mind 🙂 Thought #1: Everyone will keep predicting that each year is going to be more difficult than the last one. Before my husband and I got married everyone kept saying, “The first year is the harrrrdest…” but it wasn’t very hard at all. So at the completion of our first really awesome year of marriage people started saying, “Well, it’s rare to have a good first year but that just means that your second year is going to be SO HARD.” and so on and so forth. We’re smack dab in the middle of our third year and things have still been awesome. We have faced more challenges this year than any other year, but I still don’t know if I can call it “harrrrd”. Ya know? So now people are just telling us that when we have kids, thaaaat’s when it’s going to get tough (and we’ve decided to ignore them!)

    and second thought, I’m all about making the “honeymoon stage” last as long as possible! Clearly, in-loveness doesn’t last on its own, so as soon as we got married we set out to make choices to stay as crazy in love as possible! I don’t know if we’re still in the “honeymoon stage” or not, but it was and is something we’ve really worked at! I hope you make your “honeymoon stage” last for years and years!

    Thank you for sharing your life and thoughts on your blog. You are a great couple and I’m excited to keep reading!

  3. I don’t put much stock in the idea that some time period or other is easy or hard. Events are easy or hard, not time periods.

    Celebrations are great: birthdays, Christmas, Easter, they are all wonderful in their own way. So are all the little activities a couple share together, even the mundane, like doing the dishes. And all the things you share with each other that you would never share with anyone else. But nothing compares to the joy of having children.

    And some things are hard, like failure. Admitting weakness can be hard. Losing a job can be hard. And death. Losing one’s parents or a sibling is hard. Losing a child is just brutal.

    The common thread running through all of these events is that you are no longer two separate people. You are, in the eyes of God, joined as one. Forever.

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