Famous People Tweets Are Easy

I was listening to NPR as I was driving to work yesterday (I don’t know whether to apologize to my family that those letters weren’t F-O-X or make a joke about how many posts I’ll start with “I was listening to NPR…” so I’ll go with neither) and there was a man on there talking about something interesting (imagine that).

He was talking about something that I believe dominates our society and our relationships the way Heidi Montag dominates silicon production in the United States (if you don’t get that, don’t Google it). He was talking about how superficiality is drowning out substantiality.

What percent of Twitter, Facebook, Google, and, heck, the internet itself is superficial? 99%? 99.9%? You have the occasional creation of something like Kiva or Wikipedia that adds value to society but so much of it is rubbish that most of the time it’s hard to tell the difference. It’s like trying to get 4 oz. of cream to rise in a 5 million gallon bucket of milk.

But isn’t it the same in marriage?

How much of what I do in my marriage on a day-to-day basis is substantial? I would argue (I am arguing) that the emotional energy spent creating substantive conversation or activity at times seems unworthy of the time and focus I have to put into it. Perhaps that’s because I have an arrogant view of what my time is worth.

It’s easy to Tweet: “I am going to the gym because I just ate a hamburger. I am meeting friends there.” It’s even easier to Tweet: “[fill in famous quote from famous person].” The hard part? Creating your own material and conveying that material in an original manner that adds value.

What is true online is true in real life as well (can I get someone on making that a geometrical proof?).

It’s easy to buy a bundle of flowers and a vase and plop them down on the kitchen table. It’s even easier to drop two $20s on dinner at a nicer-than-Applebees restaurant. To wake up every morning with a plan of how I’m going to create content and lead conversation and block off substantive time with which I can dynamically lead my wife in our pursuit of the Lord and each other?

That’s difficult.

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Kyle

I'm an aspiring freelance writer and blogger (which doesn't make a ton of sense when you think about it). I started a blog called Our Marriage Project and one about OSU called Pistols Firing. I love both of them, and I love my wife. And I love Kevin Durant, Explosions in the Sky, Tim Riggins, Blue Moon ale, Twitter, and the state of Georgia.

10 thoughts on “Famous People Tweets Are Easy”

  1. Comment from a twice married old lady…

    SLOW DOWN! You’re putting too much pressure on yourself. That will cause burn out. And resentment. Just LIVE. Don’t expect BIG things everyday! Get value out of the daily.

  2. It's Jen. I didn't write the post, so I figure I can comment. 🙂

    Betsey- I definitely see what you're saying. I think there's a lot of value in just enjoying the days we have together, not trying to make every conversation into a huge, profound moment. But I also think there's something to be said for guarding and amplifying the time we do have together. I know that some days we'll succeed, some days we'll fail. But if we're not always on our toes, if Kyle doesn't continually strive to create those moments that stretch our marriage and us as individuals, I think we're in danger of becoming complacent.

    Other thoughts?

    1. OK, fair enough… BUT!

      Does that (Kyle's effort to stretch and and create moments) become an expectation? Then, if the expectation isn't met, is there disappointment?

      I know you said there are bound to be failures, but I am just reflecting back on the past five years of my life and my marriage. I think things evolve, naturally. But I take solace in the little things that are SO DAILY in our very busy, hectic lives that don't take a great effort on Britt's part, because some days, I don't want him to shoulder that responsibility. Some days, I want him to know that we still see him as the Christian leader of his home, and respect him and love him and lift him up, even if all he did that was really "leadership" that day was go to work and earn a paycheck.

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  5. I would agree that sometimes we need to not put so much pressure on ourselves in marriage (i.e. not every conversation is going to be profound and the husband/wife is not always gonna get it right ), but if we never put pressure on ourselves to be a better partner, we’d eventually fall into that ‘comfortable’ place where neither person wants to change. I think there needs to be a balance of both- times where we just accept we won’t be able to get it right and times where we refuse to settle at mediocre.

    I think I’m entering into this discussion a year too late 😛

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